I felt the need to respond to a question regarding homosexuality. I hope to shed some light on the subject because I have been privileged to have countless discussions with many living gay lifestyles…almost every one of them positive. I also wanted to respond because many  have become embittered towards God, church, and “Christians”, something that bothers me, yet doesn’t surprise me. The question:  “How can I, as a Christian, love a person who happens to be gay without agreeing with their lifestyle?”

How can we love without agreeing? We just love. And on purpose. If the situation presents itself and we’re asked about our thoughts or if we agree, we can simply answer that we don’t. That should in no way minimize our compassion for others. Did the Bible ever say that we need to agree with one’s lifestyle before we could love them? Quite the contrary!

Personally, a face to face conversation may be warranted if both parties are respectful and there is a desire for truth and understanding. But love must be at the very core. I have had many healthy discussions with people who are gay or bi-sexual…family members and non-family members. Nevertheless, our goal should be God’s goal, to love our neighbor as ourself. And that we present the good news of the Kingdom. That is real love being shown. I’d say withholding the gospel from others is not displaying His kind of love. But if the person already knows where you stand, fine. It’s comforting to know that God is not trying to modify the behavior of mankind.  He wants to make you & me brand new. He intends to make an entire new breed (2 Corinthians 5:17), a whole new person. Some argue, “I was born this way”. Jesus says, “You must be born again (John 3:3).

The Bible’s take needs to be correctly qualified and understood.  To be blunt, it states that homosexuals (or effeminate) will not inherit the Kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). That is a point that doesn’t require much debate. We can go back to the Garden of Eden and see God’s original desire, if unclear. Now what I’ve just said could be a trigger point for you. You may not want to read another word I’ve written, but please continue on. They’re not originally mine, anyway.  They came from Paul the Apostle who got it from the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. So regarding those that won’t inherit the Kingdom of Heaven, which incidentally the Garden of Eden was the closest thing we had to Heaven, neither will the fearful, the unbelieving, the abominable, murderers, whoremongers, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars (Revelation 21:8). So before we start passing judgement, Jesus said that we should first cast out the log from our own eye so we can see clearly to get the speck out of our brother’s (Matthew 7:1-5). The truth is that we’ve ALL sinned (Romans 3:23).  

When it comes specifically to homosexuality; because of Adam, every man leans a certain way (Romans 5:12). One may tend toward same-sex attraction, another may tend toward extreme heterosexuality (sexual activity outside of marriage, which is called fornication). It’s only in Christ, the last Adam (1 Corinthians 15:45), that we can have life again (1 Corinthians 15:22). It’s only through Christ that we don’t have to be out of balance to one way or the other, but stand tall as a Son in liberty…to become new in Christ (Ephesians 4:24).

When I speak with gay men, I urge the point that loving another man intimately is a beautiful thing, a thing to cherish. However, they just got the wrong man. Jesus Christ was and is the only one that can love them the way they were created to be loved. It’s also interesting that Jonathan had a love for David that no woman could give him (2 Samuel 1:26). We have no reason to believe that it was an impure love. The phrase, “I should be able to love whoever I want” is an absolutely true phrase, however today it has come to mean we should be able to have sexual relations with anyone we want. That’s just not biblical. Our goal as ambassadors of Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20) is to represent God properly, as revealed perfectly in Jesus (Hebrews 1:1-3.) Along with that is the wonderful news that we can be reconciled to Him today (2 Corinthians 5:19-6:2) and become a brand new creature. Many times I’ll even apologize on behalf of those that hold up the signs that read “God hates fags”. Part of our mission on earth is to be salt and light (Mark 9:50), to take the awesome opportunity of being a co-laborer with God seriously. We, as Christians, have no right to malign or misrepresent God in that way, not when the value of a soul is at stake.
What I would say to people that happen to be gay or bi-sexual is this: Please don’t let your sexual preferences or tendencies prevent you from an honest evaluation of the Jesus of the Bible. Please don’t let your perception of church people, whether positive or negative, stop you from making your own honest decision on who Jesus really is. We all must choose for ourselves. Your eternity hinges on who you say that He is (Matthew 16:15). The fact that we can be reconciled to God and really KNOW Him intimately to me is worth more than anything  in the world (Jeremiah 9:23-24)! That is wonderful news and the best part about that is that we don’t have to “clean” ourselves up before we come to Him. I just don’t know how a person would ever get tired or bored of that truth.  I don’t “protest” gay people (or catholics, for that matter), I promote God. I promote God’s liberating Word. I promote His intent to reconcile the fallen world back to Himself.
When we present the gospel this way, the issue of homosexuality takes a back seat. I don’t believe it deserves the front seat, anyway. A person is way more than just your sexuality! And once that person sees God for who He really is, the heart is touched and transformed.  It may be a process, sometimes a very long one, but change is inevitable. Once the heart is changed, the behavior will naturally follow.

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